Today we were blessed today to hear from Demetrius Rogers, Th.M., a hermeneutics and ethics instructor at Western Seminary.
Blessed is the man
who walks not in the counsel of the wicked,
nor stands in the way of sinners,
nor sits in the seat of scoffers;
but his delight is in the law of the Lord,
and on his law he meditates day and night.
He is like a tree
planted by streams of water
that yields its fruit in its season,
and its leaf does not wither.
In all that he does, he prospers.
The wicked are not so,
but are like chaff that the wind drives away.
Therefore the wicked will not stand in the judgment,
nor sinners in the congregation of the righteous;
for the Lord knows the way of the righteous,
but the way of the wicked will perish.
This week we are blessed to hear from guest speaker, Professor Mike Kuykendall, of Golden Gate Seminary.
- “Let Us Die with Him!” (John 11:16)
- “Where Are You Going? We Don’t Know the Way!” (John 14:4-6)
- “I will not believe…unless!” (John 20:24-25)
- “My Lord and My God!” (John 20:26-29)
How Does Jesus Deal with Doubting Thomases?
- He knows them.
- He invites them.
- He welcomes them.
Godly marriages are trusting marriages. Godly trust is only possible when both spouses are Christ-like in their submission and sacrifice to each other.
In The Beginning
The first marriage in the Bible occurs at Creation, between Adam and Eve.
Then God said, “Let us make man in our image, after our likeness. … So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them. And God blessed them. – Genesis 1:26-27
Right after Adam and Eve’s wedding, God says:
Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. – Genesis 2:24
I do not have time to unpack this in detail. However, I want to draw some things from this text to provide interpretive lenses for other scriptures on marriage.
- Men reflect God’s image through masculinity.
- Women reflect God’s image through femininity.
- Marriage reflects God’s image through unity.
- All of these image reflectors are metaphors, not the point.
- The nature of God is the point.
Not long after Adam and Eve’s wedding, sin came into the world. Sin leads to distortions of masculinity, femininity, unity, and any other reflections of the image of God.
All people, everywhere, as created beings, reflect the image of God. This is true even after the fall, but the image is tainted by sin.
Jesus, through his life, death, and resurrection, redeems those distorted images. For Christians, the goal is not only to reflect the sin-distorted image, but the Christ-redeemed image.
Godly marriages are trusting. As husband and wife become more Christ-like, their unity increases. One piece of becoming Christ-like is to love like He loves.
Christ and the Church
Using marriage as a metaphor to help us understand Jesus’ love for His people, Paul says this:
For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands. Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish. In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church, because we are members of his body. “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” This mystery is profound, and I am saying that it refers to Christ and the church. However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband. – Ephesians 5:23-33
This passage is confusing because it uses a mixed metaphor. In one metaphor, Christ is the physical head of the body. In the other metaphor, Christ is the corporate head of the church. In yet another metaphor, Christ is a groom to a bride. All of these metaphors are meant to show us how Jesus uses his authority, his headship, in a loving way.
Remember that Marriage is the metaphor. Jesus’ love for His people is the point. It can be tempting to mix those up, which only results in confusion.
So let’s take this in smaller chunks.
“Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her…” Jesus sacrificed His life on the cross for us, His people. He gave himself up for His bride. That act of sacrifice started in the Garden of Gethsemane with an act of submission. He prayed that “Father, if it be possible, let this cup pass from me; nevertheless, not as I will, but as you will.” (Matthew 26:39).
An act of submission started Jesus’ work on the cross. An act of sacrifice completed it. Submission and sacrifice are equally valid ways to reflect Jesus’ love for us to your spouse.
Christ exercises authority for the benefit of His body and His bride. “That he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, so that he might present the church to himself in splendor…”
Remember that the great wedding in this relationship does not happen until the book of Revelation. For now, we are in the engagement stage. Planning the wedding. What bride ever would argue with a brighter, whiter dress? Or fancier hair and nails, and spa treatments before her wedding?
Christ plays his “headship card” to spoil His bride to get her ready for the wedding. Men, if you ever play the headship card in your marriage, this is the example you are to follow.
For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church, because we are members of his body.
Just as we eat, sleep, and exercise to care for our bodies, so Christ cares for the Church. So men should care for their wives – their basic needs of sustenance and health must be met by your work.
Just as Jesus plays his headship card to ensure that He meets the basic needs of the Church, so we must use our headship to meet the basic needs of our families.
Jesus does not play the headship card so that he has the final say in all decisions. He does not disregard the strengths or weaknesses of the Church. He exercises His authority for only two reasons: to meet basic needs, and then to exceed those basic needs with great blessings.
The Ideal Couple
It is hard to follow Jesus’ example in Marriage because in His earthly life He was never married. Jesus’ marriage to the Church is spiritual, corporate, and different in many ways from a flesh and blood marriage. So God also gave us flesh and blood examples to follow.
In my life, I have often heard about Proverbs 31 on Mother’s Day. In that context, the message usually thanks mothers for being like the woman in Proverbs 31. The call to action is to husbands to love and appreciate their wives; and to children to love and appreciate their mothers – which is a great thing.
Other times when pastors preach from Proverbs 31, the call to action is to women to be “Wonder Woman.”
In the first part of Proverbs 31, we have King “Lemuel” writing down wisdom passed to him from his mother. Scholars disagree on just who Lemuel is; some think he is King Solomon. Others think he is a foreigner.
You may already know that Solomon’s mother was Bathsheba. Bathsheba was King David’s wife only through adultery and murder.
At a minimum, if King Lemuel is not King Solomon, the purpose of Proverbs 31 is to provide a template for a godly, trusting marriage.
At most, if King Lemuel is King Solomon, the purpose of Proverbs 31 is to provide that template and to show an example of how God redeems relationships from sin.
Through following this template, we can have more godly marriages. We can have more trusting marriages. Through having more godly and trusting marriages, our experience and understanding of the love of Jesus for us, His people, will increase.
This flesh and blood marriage is a great example of submission and sacrifice. It is a great example of trust. It is a great example of godliness in marriage.
An excellent wife who can find?
She is far more precious than jewels.
The heart of her husband trusts in her,
and he will have no lack of gain.
She does him good, and not harm,
all the days of her life.
Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain,
but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.
Give her of the fruit of her hands,
and let her works praise her in the gates.
A complementary marriage is characterized by trust. Trust is both offered and earned. We get to look at this couple many years into their marriage. But we know that trust develops over time. Trust is risky. We see that their risky trust is rewarded with “no lack of gain.”
A woman like this is incredibly hard to find. Many men are shallow, and look only for charm or beauty. Many women want to deliver charm and beauty because that is what gets them noticed. Few men look for character, and the fear of the Lord, so few women deliver it. This man was wise. He looked for character and the fear of the Lord. He found a treasure more precious than jewels because he was not fooled by a fake.
She seeks wool and flax,
and works with willing hands.
She is like the ships of the merchant;
she brings her food from afar.
She rises while it is yet night
and provides food for her household
and portions for her maidens.
She considers a field and buys it;
with the fruit of her hands she plants a vineyard.
She perceives that her merchandise is profitable.
Her lamp does not go out at night.
She puts her hands to the distaff,
and her hands hold the spindle.
She makes linen garments and sells them;
she delivers sashes to the merchant.
She works HARD, both inside the home and outside it. Again, because he trusts her. He encourages and empowers her. He gets to eat well because she “provides food for her household.”
She dresses herself with strength
and makes her arms strong.
Strength and dignity are her clothing,
and she laughs at the time to come.
She is fashionably dressed and fit. Both in character and body. He does not complain when she goes shopping. She has the character of self-control, not to overspend. When she comes home and tries on her new clothes, she looks good, and he likes it.
When she goes out, she does not look depressed. She has a good sense of humor. She exudes joy. People in public see her as dressed with strength. They hear her laughter and happiness and hope for the future. Anyone seeing this woman would know that she is loved and appreciated at home.
She opens her hand to the poor
and reaches out her hands to the needy.
She opens her mouth with wisdom,
and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue.
She is generous and charitable. Not only with their possessions but also with her knowledge and wisdom. He does not complain when she gives. He appreciates it. He does not tear her down. He does not assault her credibility. He builds her up.
She is not afraid of snow for her household,
for all her household are clothed in scarlet.
She makes bed coverings for herself;
her clothing is fine linen and purple.
She looks well to the ways of her household
and does not eat the bread of idleness.
Her home is well maintained and well decorated. He fixes things without complaining, or he pays for them to be fixed. We also get the idea she is just as comfortable working with contractors or laborers as he is. She is business savvy, she is tool savvy, and she is not going to be taken for a ride. He trusts her a lot. Because he trusts her, he does not have to worry about being cold.
Her husband is known in the gates
when he sits among the elders of the land.
Up until now you might have been wondering what the man does outside the home. The supportive husband is not merely a cheerleader for his wife. He is a businessman (the gates were the place of business). He also has some political pull “when he sits among the elders of the land.”
Her children rise up and call her blessed;
her husband also, and he praises her:
“Many women have done excellently,
but you surpass them all.”
I suspect that this man’s praise for his wife is not only given in private. He sets an example for his children by building up his wife in public. Because of his example, they do the same. I think it is this part that makes this such a great Mother’s Day text. Again, if that is all you take from this text, you are missing a lot.
Men – work hard against your selfishness. Pray that God would help you to love through sacrifice. Like Jesus. Trust your wife to respect you.
Women – work hard against your selfishness. Pray that God would help you to love through submission. Like Jesus. Trust your husband to care for you.
All – Surround yourself with other people in Godly marriages. Find marriages characterized by unity and trust. Being around them will help you in your own marriage. Being around them, seeing their love and trust for each other will help you have a greater understanding and experience of Jesus’ love for you.
“Go therefore and make disciples of all the nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and the Son and the Holy Spirit, teaching them to observe all that I commanded you; and lo, I am with you always, even to the end of the age.” – Matthew 28:19-20
Our missions and outreach team works together to bring the Gospel of Christ to Camas/Washougal and to the far ends of the earth. As a team comprised of individuals passionate about sharing the Word of God and the Love of Christ, we are eager to get involved in our community. We recognize the many needs of both the Camas/Washougal community as well as the needs around the world. You can join us in serving through donating to special offerings; participating in outreach opportunities; supporting our international ministries, and adventuring with us on mission trips.
Currently, we have two regular outreach activities in the community. We serve a meal every 2nd and 5th Monday at the local Lost and Found Cafe. We also put on a monthly birthday celebration for the families at Open House Ministries in Vancouver.
Parkside Men’s Ministry seeks to build of the men of our community through fellowship, discipleship, and prayer. There are many activities that Parkside Men can become involved with to develop and strengthen their relationship with Christ and our brothers.
“As iron sharpens iron, one man sharpens another.” – Proverbs 27:17
We enjoy a men’s breakfast every 3rd Satruday of the month. We meet at 7 am to take time fellowship, pray, encourage, and develop trust in God’s desire to do great things in our church and our lives. Hear testimonies and share in the joys of Christ’s work in each other’s lives.
Every Sunday, men are invited to join in prayer with one another. During each Sunday morning service, men pray for the voice of God to be heard through the preacher, those in attendance, and the needs of the congregation. Praying for open hearts and open minds to see and hear the words of God. This is a great opportunity to build God glorifying relationships with other men.
We also have two men’s Bible study groups that meet every week. The AM group, “The Searchers,” meets Thursday mornings at 6:30, year round. The PM group, “The Hungry Men,” meets Wednesday evenings at 6:30, September through May. There are at least two of our elders that participate in each of these groups, so the discussion is very insightful. Both groups are great places to gather and grow as men of God.
Sunday Service starts at 10:30 AM.
We’re located at 1420 NE 3rd Ave, Camas, WA 98607
C-Tran bus 92 stops in front of our church.
Parking is located on the south side of the building (the back). If you pull in on the front side of the building, drive past the apartments and turn right to get to the back parking lot.
From the parking lot, come in the downstairs entrance.
Head upstairs to join us for service. Bring your kids with you. Kids 5th grade and younger will go downstairs for Sunday School after the worship portion of the service, just before the sermon.
What we Believe about God
We believe in one God, Creator of all things, who is personal, perfect, and eternally existing in God the Father, God the Son, and God the Holy Spirit. Matthew 28:19-20.
What we Believe about Jesus Christ
We believe that by the miracle of the virgin birth, Jesus Christ, eternal Son of God, became man without ceasing to be God. He came to reveal God and restore man to God by dying on the cross for our sin. He arose from the dead after three days to demonstrate His power over sin and death. He ascended to Heaven and will return again someday to earth to reign as King and Lord. 1 Corinthians 15:3-4.
What we Believe about The Holy Spirit
We believe that the Holy Spirit is equal with the Father and the Son as God. He is present in the world to make people aware of their need for Jesus Christ. He lives in every Christian from the moment of salvation. He provides the Christian with power for living, understanding of spiritual truth, and guidance in doing what is right. 2 Corinthians 3:17; John 16:7-13, 14:16-17.
What we Believe about The Bible
We believe the Bible is God’s word, the supreme source of truth. It was written by human authors, under the supernatural guidance of the Holy Spirit. Because it is inspired by God, it is the truth without any mixture of error. 2 Timothy 3:16.
What we Believe about Mankind
We believe people were created in the image of God to be like Him in character. People are the supreme object of God’s creation. Although every person has tremendous potential for good, all of us are marred by an attitude of disobedience toward God called “sin.” This attitude separates us from God and causes many problems in life. Genesis 1:27; Isaiah 53:6a, 59:1; Romans 3:23.
What we Believe about Salvation
Salvation is God’s free gift to us but we must accept it. We can never make up for our sin by self-improvement or good works. Only by trusting in Jesus Christ as God’s offer of forgiveness can anyone be rescued from sin’s penalty. When we turn from our self-ruled life and turn to Jesus in faith, we are made whole. Eternal life begins the moment one receives Jesus Christ into his life by faith. John 10:28, 17:3; Romans 8:1, 10:9-10.
What we Believe about Eternal Security
Because God gives us eternal life through Jesus Christ, the true believer is secure for eternity. It is the grace and keeping power of God that gives us eternal security, not our self effort. A true Christian will not take advantage of God’s favor, but will practice genuine humility and attempt to live according to God’s standards. John 10:29, 2 Timothy 1:12, 1 Peter 1:3-5.
What we Believe about The Christian Lifestyle
We believe that a Christian is to walk within scriptural boundaries but also has freedom within those boundaries. We trust people to be empowered and led by the Holy Spirit to live a life pleasing to God. Romans 14:1-6; Galatians 5:22-23.
What we Believe about Church
We believe the universal church consisting of all those who have accepted Jesus Christ as their savior. We believe in the local church where Christians live out their faith through corporate worship, work and fellowship. We believe God has given the individual members of the local church the primary task of telling others about the good news of Jesus Christ. Matthew 28:19-20; 2 Corinthians 5:17-20.
What we Believe about Baptism
We believe Baptism is one of the ordinances Christ left the church. It is an outward sign of an inward reality demonstrating one’s faith in God the Father, one’s acceptance of Jesus Christ the Son, and one’s recognition of the living presence of the Holy Spirit in them. Baptism means to dip or immerse; therefore the mode of Baptism here at Parkside Church is immersion. Matthew 28:19-20; Acts 2:38-41.
What we Believe about Communion
We believe that Jesus told us to remember Him through sharing the bread (His body given for us) and the cup (his shed blood). It is an outward symbol pointing to our present healthy relationship with Christ. We choose to take communion once a month. 1 Corinthians 11:23-24.